Cheating is about Emotional Abuse, not Biology

The real reason we don’t draw a line in the sand when it comes to abuse is because it would incriminate too many people we know.

If you or someone you know has been the victim of another individual’s lack of integrity, you may qualify for compensation, or at the very least, be eligible for an apology. The definitive data is hard to come by; however, studies estimate that upwards of 70% of heterosexual women have been cheated on by a partner. Sure, women in heterosexual relationships cheat too, but those relationships are far less likely to survive the infidelity. I think I know why. My papa wasn’t a rolling stone, but that made him a very rare rock. Everywhere else I looked, men were almost expected to mess around outside of their relationships. I saw this growing up in Black American culture, West African culture, hell, American culture as well.

Wherever there were men claiming monogamy, there were men failing at it miserably. They were just different, my mother warned; they needed things that one woman simply couldn’t satisfy, she struggled to explain. A combination of lion on the pride parallels, a couple of Bible quotes, a lack of emotional maturity, and a splash of sexism made it all make sense. It was simply in a man’s nature to struggle with monogamy. Some of them, few of them, were able to avoid those urges. The rest, well, they…