How To Get Dumped… The Right Way

When a relationship fails, it’s only natural to seek answers to your hearts’ most pressing questions. Will we still be friends? Is there a possibility we’ll get back together? Who gets to keep the living room furniture? But once we the dust settles around our basic breakup Q&A, we find ourselves left with even more daunting questions like: Who am I now? What was my role in the breakdown of my relationship? And are my relationship expectations unrealistic?

It’s not uncommon for recent singles to spend so much time harboring on the logistics of their failed courtship that they forget to fully recon with the emotions of the loss, distracting themselves with hoe-tations and rebounds to mask the smell of their rotted autonomy, only to end up dragging emotional corpses from relationship to relationship. Society teaches us to bypass the pain of our failed relationships but stops short of showing us how to extract our lessons from the discomfort. A breakup should be a time of rediscovery and restoration, and if done properly, a time of reclaiming one’s identity. How we end one relationship often foreshadows the energy we carry into the next. It’s not just about breaking bonds, it’s about doing so in a way that doesn’t hinder our ability to create them in the future. So if you find yourself on the wrong side of a “We need to talk” text, this four-step breakup breakdown will help you get dumped the right way.

Step 1: Acceptance

The first step in any journey is often the hardest to take, and when it comes to a…